Why You Might Find This Guide Helpful:

It's never really about the dishes. Or who forgot to call. Or what was said at dinner last Tuesday. The argument you keep having — in different forms, at different times — is about something neither of you has found the words for yet.

The Gottman Institute found that 69% of relationship conflicts are what they call "perpetual problems" — disagreements rooted in fundamental personality differences that will never fully resolve. The couples who stay together don't solve these problems. They learn how to talk about them without destroying each other in the process.

This guide teaches you how. Inside: why you keep having the same fight (and what's really underneath it), the four communication patterns that predict relationship breakdown with 80% accuracy, the soft start-up technique that changes the outcome of a difficult conversation before it even begins, how to listen without defending, the rules of fair fighting that keep conflict from becoming damage, and the exact scripts for the conversations most couples never manage to have.

Communication is a skill. This guide teaches it.